Tag: dating

5 Phases to Pass When You Suck at Love

So, I spent my quarantine time binge-watching The Mindy Project in the past few weeks. No kidding, I’ve just finished the last episode of its final season. Not to mention that I actually started watching it from the pilot episode. So yes, I have a lot of things to say about it because the ending was kind of disappointing. 

Regardless of what I think about the ending, I think about the whole series and it gave me an epiphany to start writing this piece. 

I could relate so much to Mindy when it comes to her dating experience. I mean, if you really gotta count how many guys I’ve slept with, you would probably think of me as a slut. Look, I’m not proud of my achievement in that case but if there’s anything I understand, it is probably because I simply suck at love. 

I texted my best friend yesterday, I told her that I don’t know how it is to be in a healthy relationship that whenever I am in one, it’s like just a ticking bomb where I count the time until I sabotage it. That’s when I realized that those who suck at love like I do, they could probably relate to these 5 phases they’ve passed throughout their romance life.

At least I have.

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Can I Find a Hookup on BeNaughty?

While this might not be for everyone, for others it could be the perfect combination of casual sex and no commitments. People looking for ‘action’ that works around their work schedule or lifestyle, or they’re new to the game and just looking to experience a new intimacy. And I’m all for trying new things.

There are many reasons why a person would delve into this side of ‘lust’ and love, some of which we will touch on later on in this article, but they aren’t that far off from what we consider ok or normal.

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What I’ve Learned from Long-Distance Relationship: Things that Work and Things that Don’t

I’m not saying I’m an expert at long-distance relationships, but I was in a few relationships where I had to be apart from my (now ex) boyfriend. It’s like, I knew that long-distance relationships would be hard, but damn I fell for the guys who live a thousand miles over and over again.

In my last relationship, we had to do long-distance since my ex is doing his PhD in the Netherlands. A few years before then, I was also in a relationship with someone who lived in Istanbul when I was based in Jeddah.

I know too well it’s challenging, it’s just that… When you know, you know the right person for you. It doesn’t really matter if you end up to be with them forever or they’re just there for lessons.

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Similarities and Differences of Dating in Our 20s vs 30s

It’s been a few months since my 30th birthday. Recently, I got a message from Shi Hui asking me for details on my dating life since she found out that I’m dating a Singaporean guy. And at the time, she suggested me to start writing on a post about what makes dating in my early 30s different than my 20s.

I figure it’s actually a brilliant idea. There are so many things to talk about when it comes to the differences, either from within or the external situation. So, now that I’m honestly running out of the ideas what to write next now that I’ve finished my Borneo trip post… Here comes the post about dating in our 20s vs 30s!

So, what are the similarities? And what things that make one different than the other?!

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Please Stay Single If You Can’t Be Open and Honest to Your Partner!

If there’s an event in my life that I wish I could just skip, I suppose that would be the part when I got cheated on. Back when I was in high school. Funny how it’s been years since it happened, yet I still find it hard to forget the feeling of getting betrayed by the person I trusted back in the days.

Fast forward to today, I’m 30 and not as naive as my 15-year-old self. These days, I often think that monogamy is overrated. But still, I think cheating is still unforgivable.

After all, I still think that an ugly truth is still way better than a beautiful lie.

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