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It’s so hard to be a horny Indonesian woman.
I mean, throughout my life I get judged way too many times. Back when I was a teenager and I didn’t show any interests to any guys, one of my friends asked me whether I was lesbian.
Nowadays, when I’m 29 and open to any sex talk because I’m sexually active (well, sort of!), some people start eyeing me and calling me names. I’m totally okay with them calling me names, because I’m too old to get offended by snowflakes.
What I am not okay is someone who would play a ‘nice guy’ and tell me to ‘have some respect for myself.”
I mean, sometimes the ‘I care about you’ attitude that so many Indonesian people possess annoys me to the point that I just want to scream. Especially in times like this.
Why Do I Need To Have Some Respect For Myself When That’s What I’ve Had For So Long?
I’ve lived my life the whole life. I’ve been there for me throughout difficult times. Ups and downs. High and low. Don’t you dare to tell me that I don’t have any respect for myself when it’s clearly something that I’ve had for so long.
If you really want to know the truth, then I had something that you thought was some respect for myself, and you know what happened? I met a lot of people who were simply not my cup of tea. Or maybe I’m not their cup of tea.
This time, I’m getting old and what I want is just peace for myself. And the least thing that I can do is to reveal the worst part of myself just to see if they’re my cup of tea. I don’t want to waste my time to wear my mask just to find out that I’m simply not their long-lost puzzle.
Also, since when the urgency to have sex is equal to not respecting oneself?
I Am Not A Whore. Or Am I?
So for those who call me names, I think there’s something that I need to point out here. I am not a whore. I am just a girl who shamelessly admits that I love sex and that’s that.
Stop thinking so negative about it, because honestly, I feel sorry for those who love sex and they have to live a big fat lie because of someone like you. If having some respect for myself is the same as being honest with myself, then I figure I’m doing the right thing. So, what’s your problem?
Here’s the thing, if I have something to remind people of about myself, I want it to be the honesty that I’ve told and shown throughout life. I am not perfect, but at least I’m not a liar.
Here’s Why You Need To Stop Calling Me A Whore…
First of all, from all the fun sex that I’ve had throughout my life, I never got paid for them. I did them because I simply liked them. Told you it was hard to be a horny Indonesian girl. 😉
Also, if anything, I never hurt anyone just because I had sex with those guys. Most of the time, I was the one who got hurt because the dick was so big and I was too tight. But nope, you wouldn’t even care because I would be the one who’s wrong because you think I’m the whore.
But am I, really? Look, even if I am a whore, I am a proud one because I do it by heart. And I strictly choose my partner because I don’t want to be with anyone’s boyfriend or husband. Free sex is not always wrong when you do it right.
I’ve never hurt anyone for having sex with too many guys. At least not that I know of.
You tell me to have some respect for myself, yet you couldn’t had some for yourself first by minding off my own business. But there you go.
So please, stop calling me a whore. Or don’t stop.
Honestly, I don’t care at all.
So goodbye, snowflakes!
Ugh! People who judge, who needs them. Sex should be what works for you. There is nothing wrong with sex to have fun. It doesn’t need to have all the other strings. I admire your approach. I told my sons that they should respect their partner, talk about what they each enjoy and protect themselves while having fun.
i’m so glad that you’re so understanding and you have a positive approach towards life to your son. thank you so much! 🙂
This is a really good post! I have never liked name calling, it hurts people first off. Secondly it does not help a situation. Lastly it does not make you the bigger person. I say live your life the way you want, be happy, be free, be anything you want to be. Thank you for sharing this!
Interesting read. Sexuality is something that a lot of people fear or look at as wrong for religious reasons or traditions. I admire you for being honest with yoursel and just hope you protect your body and your heart. People will critic you whether you’re doing right or wrong. Continue being positive.
thank you so much, tereka.. i think if there’s anything i don’t want to do, it’s to live a lie. so thanks a lot for the encouragement. 🙂
Your post is such an interesting read. I love the pictures in your post. Thanks for sharing.
wow, good post, that pict make me aw aw aw