- Set 2
- 13. If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future or anything else, what would you want to know?
- 14. Is there something that you’ve dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven’t you done it?
- 15. What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?
- 16. What do you value most in a friendship?
- 17. What is your most treasured memory?
- 19. If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are now living? Why?
- 20. What does friendship mean to you?
- 21. What roles do love and affection play in your life?
- 22. Alternate sharing something you consider a positive characteristic of your partner. Share a total of five items.
- 23. How close and warm is your family? Do you feel your childhood was happier than most other people’s?
- 24. How do you feel about your relationship with your mother?
So you’ve probably read the first set of questions that I’ve written on my last post, and now I want to continue the series into the second part.
How’s the result so far? I mean, have you fallen for me yet? No? Not even a bit? Okay, bummer then. *lol*
Still from the list of questions from New York Times’ The 36 Questions That Lead To Love, I would like to test yall my readers (if there’s any) whether these questions really lead to love.
I think I’d like to know the future, given the fact that people in my surroundings start to piss me off as they tell me to hurry up as the clock’s ticking and everyone’s getting married. While here I am, sitting here knowing nothing. Like, is there even anyone interested to know me more than just body?
I mean, given the choice to know the truth about myself, my life and my future… I’ve lived my life with me all along, so I don’t think it’s necessary to get told about the first two by someone else. My future is the only choice, right?
Also, if a crystal ball is so powerful, I’d like to know whether we could bargain for an alternative situation in case I’m not ready for what they tell me. *lmao*
14. Is there something that you’ve dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven’t you done it?
The answer to that question would be either going to Croatia for vacation or watching World Cup in the stadium. Or maybe both?
Well, why haven’t I done it? I think the answer is quite clear. Financial issues. Being Indonesian is hard enough to get the visa to most countries that I’d like to visit (I always dream of Europe as my goal!), let alone being the poor one like me. 🙁
Imagine in order to apply the visa you need to have USD 5000 in your account when in reality you get paid the minimum wage of USD 300 per month. I mean, it sounds like I will never be able to get there in 50 years!
Not to mention that the flight ticket can be real expensive too, the accommodation as well. And we need to have all of these in order to apply for the visa, even worse because you’ll never know whether it’d be approved or rejected. And even to submit the application, you need to pay for half of one-month salary. Hmm.
All hail the begpackers that come to South East Asia with Visa On Arrival and end up begging on the street asking for our money to fund their travel. I’m not a fan.
However, a goal is a goal and that’s still on my to-do-list no matter how hard it is to get to Croatia or go somewhere for the World Cup.
So far, I have two options in mind. First, now that I’m on my therapy for Bell’s Palsy, my goal is to get better and be in total recovery by next year so that I can reapply for experienced cabin crew position again for Qatar Airways in 2018. That way, I’ll get a chance to watch the World Cup live in the stadium 4 years later.
Otherwise, I can also take the shortcut and marry some random Singaporean now their passport getting the privilege of the most powerful rank.
I mean, I always had this conversation with my boss in my previous job who’s Singaporean, being two women who struggle for life by ourselves mentally, physically and financially, we thought that it’d be better if we just marry the rich in Singapore and be soccermoms.
The thought has never disappeared from my head and I’ll stick to that one as my alternative. Plus, marrying Singaporean will get me permanent residence that may eventually get me its citizenship.
Sounds dreamy, doesn’t it? When it happens, I’ll grin at you peasants who still hold the green passport like the one that I do now. *lol*
15. What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?
The greatest accomplishment of my life, eh? Even to get this far is such an accomplishment now that I know it’s a cruel, cruel world. Hmm.
16. What do you value most in a friendship?
Honesty. And I think that’s what I value the most in any kind of relationship. I think life without honesty has no meaning.
17. What is your most treasured memory?
Childhood memory has always been the most treasured memory, because you were so innocent back then and you only lived to please yourself.Nothing stopped me from posing. Not even eye disease. I think I was around 4 that day, in one of my aunts’ wedding.
I don’t think I would. Actually, I just had this kind of conversation with a friend of mind. I mean, about death and whatnot. So I was like, “Sometimes I wonder too, what if this is life and that is all?”
And my friend told me that uncertainty is the only certain thing in the world, and boy he’s right!
So if I was given one year to die, I don’t think I’d change anything about the way I am living because if anything I’ve lived my life to the fullest. And I don’t want to live less than that even though I know I’m dying.
That brought me a memory of my late friend, Diandra. She passed away earlier this year, and everybody knows how bad her diet was because she consumed MSG in daily basis as well as couldn’t live without Teh Kotak, not even a day.
And one day we had this conversation and she was like, “Someday, they would forbid me to eat the food that I like or do anything that I want to do. But now that I can do anything I want and eat some delicious food, then why the heck should I stop myself from doing something that I love?”
She had lived a happy life. And I am inspired.
PS. If you think MSG could make you stupid, just know that I was so sure if Diandra lived longer, she’d make it to be the youngest professor ever if she was still alive.
RIP Diandra Dewi (1989-2017)
20. What does friendship mean to you?
Friendship is something that allows you to actually know each other well enough. Friends are those people who know the good and the bad side of yourself, as well as you do theirs.
You have so many acquaintances in the world, but friends? I’m sure you’ll know them when I mention ‘friends’ in the first place. Because no matter what, friends are always close to your heart no matter where they are. 🙂
21. What roles do love and affection play in your life?
Now that I haven’t got love nor affection, I’m not sure whether I actually live my life well enough to answer that question. Haha.
I mean, when it comes to romance, I think I take it slow. Some people could be in their worst state of mind when it comes to love, meanwhile I can be here laughing at memes when someone broke my heart yesterday.
Honestly, it doesn’t play big role in life. Not so far.
Okay, since I do a self-interview here, I suppose I’ll be here telling you the positive characteristic of myself, based on my perspectives. Let’s see.
- If anything, I value honesty more than anything. I can be so blunt about everything, which can be either good or bad. Depends on how you see it, but for me, I value the ugly truth more than the beautiful lie so I think I’m doing a good job.
- Someone told me that I’m probably the fairest person that he has ever met. Not ‘fair’ kind of Snow White, but I see things the way it is and I reciprocate when I need to.
- Despite I look fearless on the outside, I can’t tolerate any kind of violence. I’m a rock outside, a fluffy soft animal at heart. *lol*
- Hipocricy is something that is not related to me. Not even close.
- Self-love is something that I value the most in order to live my life the fullest. I don’t think I can live someone else if I fail to love myself.
My family is really close! I mean, I’m not that close with my Dad but growing up, I find it easier to talk to him than when I was a kid.
I often talk to people who aren’t really close with their siblings, but I’m glad that if there’s anything I could tell you about my siblings, then it’s the fact that they’re my best friends. Literally.
I can’t really imagine anyone who could be better friends than my siblings because I could literally tell them anything without any judgement. Also, they’ve made the best traveling partners too. And best photographer! 😉
24. How do you feel about your relationship with your mother?
She’s definitely a good friend of mine. Not only that I seek for her advice whenever I see a deadlock somewhere, but also she’s someone I’d be happy to fight with whenever I can.
The relationship with my mother is not always easy because you see… there’s a gap between the youth in my era and hers so we fight a lot. But then I suppose me being smartmouth reminds me of herself when she was younger, so who’s really to blame?
She’s a conservative Sundanese (and Muslim) mother who thinks she’ll be the happiest if she sees me getting married. Don’t get me wrong, I want to make her happy but then getting married is a big deal, and it’s not a guarantee to make me happy so it’s complicated.
Being a daughter with a porky mouth could really save my day if that’s the case.
That’s a wrap for the second set of questions. How’s it? Have you got butterflies flying around stomach reading my answer from one question to the others?
Any chance someone falling in love with me already so that I can tell my Mom that she needs to stop worrying about me as I’m getting married?!
Still one more set to go, I’ll see you on the next post and cheerio! 😉
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