This is such a typical question that a potential employer may ask in most companies based in Indonesia. Like, it’s so common that I can’t remember a job interview that leaves this question alone.
Speaking of the question, I remember 10 years ago when I turned 20, I made some crappy note on Facebook talking about some expectation that I had in 5 years. Some have turned into reality, when some other let’s just say we got buried it into the ground. 😛
And well, it’s already Aquarius season lately and if there’s anything that you need to know, then it is the fact that I’m counting down the days to the day I turn 30. I figure, maybe I should make a post like 10 years ago: some scrap about how I want to see myself in 5 years.
My Expectation When I’m 35
It’s probably super cliche that I see myself as a stronger, better and definitely more mature woman in 5 years. I’ve got some kind of anxiety from turning 30 this year alone, but I also heard some good things about being in our 30s from some friends who are already in that phase.
And to be honest, it’s only early 2019 and I’m still yet to turn 30 when I feel like everything seems to be in the right place. Like, for the first time in my life, I feel like everything makes sense and goes well. And I’m content.
So, since I focus on beau, beauty, and travel on this blog… I might as well to focus on those topics for this post. What do I see myself in 5 years, in terms of beau, beauty, and travel then?!
Remember when I wrote about my hope for 2019, and said that maybe there’s no such thing like prince charming because the only charming thing for me is just me?!
The funny thing is that it took me barely a month to change my mind since that post. Yeah, at this point, I think I’ve found my prince charming. If such term exists, to begin with. I’m still a cynical girl that you’ve come to know, but better.
I’m currently seeing someone. And it’s terrifying and fascinating at the same time as we start planning out about our future together. Things happened so fast that it almost felt like a dream. It’s so complicated yet so simple at the same time.
For the first time in my life, I feel like I don’t need to put extra effort for this guy to see my worth. And despite some doubts that I had at the beginning of our relationship, I was a bit surprised on how I wanted to try to tolerate his shortcomings and commit to whatever sets in the future.
It sounds a bit mushy that in 5 years, I would like to see myself with him. Because I had never met anyone who could accept my bullshit until I met him. And if there’s anyone who deserves to be a part of my future, I wouldn’t mind if that person is him.
As you probably know by now, I love skincare and makeup so much that I got to the point that I’m starting to think about taking it into the next level. I’ve got a plan to start something small related to this hobby of mine. It has something to do with the beau part.
I’ve been discussing with my partner and I have some sort of plan that I want to start soon. He has been the biggest support to this plan, and I’m glad.
This is a small gig that I want to start out in the near future. I hope this could go as a long term gig, but then I understand that there must be some kind of trials and error along the way. I’m at that point when I think I’m ready for the risk.
After all, I think it’s better to try and fail, rather than not knowing what could have been.
As I mentioned that I, at least at this moment, have my boyfriend in my long-term plan, and traveling is one of the aspects that we’ve been discussing too.
Well, no… We’re not really planning to go for RTW trip or whatever. But, he knows that traveling is a big part of my life, and I’ve gotten so used to travel solo that I even asked whether I’d be able to still go travel solo once he calls me wife.
He wouldn’t mind, but he added that we could always travel together at times. And he wouldn’t bother if I wanted to stroll around on my own.
We haven’t decided where we’re going to settle our life together, but hopefully, we’ll find out in a year. He’s Singaporean, and he personally doesn’t really fancy settling in his home country. My home country is an option, but nothing sets in stone yet. At least not today.
What Do I See Myself in 5 Years?
You know what’s funny?!
Back when I was in my early 20s, one of my expectations would be married by the time I got 25. I’m glad it didn’t happen. And despite all the negativity people throw at me just because I’m single in my 30s, at this point I think there’s no need to get in a rush for such a big decision like marriage. Especially when you’re not 100% ready.
I’m (almost) ready for that new phase of life, but I need some time to actually plan things out with my partner so far. But for sure, it’s in our agenda. It could be either next year or in 2 years, but we know what we’re gonna do if we get steady that far.
So far, things have been great as we almost talk about everything as adults. And I’m glad.
We spent 3 days in JB last week to see how it was to live together as ‘partners’ and I think it went well, and I’m so glad that the feeling was mutual. In a few weeks, we will have to overcome some potential issues like time difference as he’s going to do his PhD in the Netherlands for one semester. I mean, no one says that long distance relationship would be easy but here we are, trying our butt off!
In mid-2019, I’d probably visit him and his family in Singapore. We’re planning out our second trip somewhere after that, before getting his ass to Bandung to see my family.
For once in my life, I feel very optimistic about my future. And I hope the feeling wouldn’t change in 5 years.