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5 Life Lessons that I’ve Learned from Having a Toxic Uncle Who’s Basically an Asshole

Since the title might sound controversial for some of you, let me put a disclaimer here: this one is a really personal post. And despite the fact that I’m trying my best to bottle up my emotion, I decided to just write a post about it as some kind of therapy. So, here we go!

First of all, I rarely talk about my family. I mean, I know a lot of people who would share their some kind of picture-perfect family portrait during holiday seasons. Be it during Christmas or Idul Fitri around here, some people even customized some matching outfits with the rest of the family to get a perfect family picture during the time.

Well, in case you haven’t noticed that… I’m not that kind of person. Holiday seasons for me are just another day, the only difference is that many people come and go to my house for a visit.

Plus, I’ve got a super big family that I just can’t keep up anymore. And I don’t even bother pretending that I’m impressed by the connection we’ve shared through our ancestors. The only reason why I’ve been trying to behave myself is because of my parents.

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3 Things I’ve Got from My Late Grandma

3 days ago, my grandma has passed away.

She had been sick for 20++ years, in fact, if you asked me… I think I remember more of her being sick than when she was fit to get around. Being sick for so long, death was something that she had been waiting for so long.

We saw it coming, but apparently, it’s still difficult when the time arrived. Only one year and a week after Disco’s death.

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What You Need to Remember When Your Dad Finds Love Again After Your Mom Passed Away

Recently, my cousin got a trouble coping with the fact that her dad is getting married again, a few years after my aunt passed away.

I’ve never been in her shoes, but then again it seems to me that her other siblings could handle it better. They’re more understanding with the idea of their dad getting married. After all, we’re all adults and theoretically speaking, it seems easier to understand the reason for what our parents do these days.

So if you’re like my cousin, who finds it hard to accept the idea of how there will be another ‘woman’ that is not your mom around the house you grew up in, maybe you need to remember some things before rejecting the idea of what makes your dad happy.

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Obituary: Disco The Cat (2006-2018)

Yesterday was the day I have lost a pet, a best friend and a brother as Disco passed away in his 8th year being with the family and 12th year of his entire life.

I spent my time crying all night, but now I think I’m ready to pour my heart out to write about how losing a cat who’s been with me in the past 8 years has affected me. No one told me it would be easy, and damn it was hard as hell.

I woke up with swollen eyes only to find out he’s no longer here to greet me and show his begging eyes for me to feed him. Thank God I’ve got Chiban, Disco’s offspring,¬†who’s here for me to remind me that the death of Disco is not the end of everything.

Throughout the night, I have collected the pictures taken while he was here with the family only to reminisce the sad and happy days when we’ve been through everything together in the past few years.

And from those pictures, there’s one thing that I know of: I could do nothing but just be thankful for his existence. Through him, I’ve seen the transformation of me as well as his.

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