Tag: dating and relationship

Obituary: Disco The Cat (2006-2018)

Yesterday was the day I have lost a pet, a best friend and a brother as Disco passed away in his 8th year being with the family and 12th year of his entire life.

I spent my time crying all night, but now I think I’m ready to pour my heart out to write about how losing a cat who’s been with me in the past 8 years has affected me. No one told me it would be easy, and damn it was hard as hell.

I woke up with swollen eyes only to find out he’s no longer here to greet me and show his begging eyes for me to feed him. Thank God I’ve got Chiban, Disco’s offspring,¬†who’s here for me to remind me that the death of Disco is not the end of everything.

Throughout the night, I have collected the pictures taken while he was here with the family only to reminisce the sad and happy days when we’ve been through everything together in the past few years.

And from those pictures, there’s one thing that I know of: I could do nothing but just be thankful for his existence. Through him, I’ve seen the transformation of me as well as his.

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Stop Calling Me A Whore… Or Don’t Stop At All.

It’s so hard to be a horny Indonesian woman.

I mean, throughout my life I get judged way too many times. Back when I was a teenager and I didn’t show any interests to any guys, one of my friends asked me whether I was lesbian.

Nowadays, when I’m 29 and open to any sex talk because I’m sexually active (well, sort of!), some people start eyeing me and calling me names. I’m totally okay with them calling me names, because I’m too old to get offended by snowflakes.

What I am not okay is someone who would play a ‘nice guy’ and tell me to ‘have some respect for myself.”

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Thou Shalt Not Followeth Thy Fuck Buddy On Social Media. Here’s Why!

I’ve never been the kind of person who would accept everyone’s friend request on Facebook. Let alone some random strangers who add me on Facebook, sometimes I even avoid being friends with some guys from work.

I like to keep my privacy so much in a way that sometimes my friends who added me on Facebook had to follow up in order for me to accept their request. I’ve got nothing to hide on my Facebook account, but I also don’t want some random people to know what kind of memes that I like, what issues that I care about and all that.

So then whenever I meet someone new either organically or through dating apps, despite the fact that I’m quite (if not very) active on my Facebook and any other social media account like Instagram etc, I never really wanted to connect with any of them through social media.

That’s why I made a big deal out of some random guy I slept with who suddenly messaged me on Facebook after like 1.5 years.

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