Category: personal

What I’ve Done to (Look Like I) Get My Shit Together

Posted on by Marya The BeauTraveler

I’ve been quite hustling lately to the point that I barely have time to write these days. The good news is that at this point, I feel like I’ve finally got my shit together. Not just on the surface, but also in general.

I could pay my bills without having to hustle just so I can get some extra income to buy some other things, and even better that for the first time in my life… I could actually save some money into my account!

For those who don’t know me, that might come off as surprising since I’m always the kind of person who would seem like I get my shit together. Except for some depressing memes that I’ve shared on Facebook. LOL.

Well, I’m sure that there may be some other people who are currently struggling like I did and wonder how to get your shit together. Because apparently, life is a bitch when you’re not rich. And no, I’m not gonna glorify what’s so-called hard work which I feel I’m entitled to. It’s so much more than just working my ass off.

Instead, I’m here to tell you the honest story about how to get where I am today after a series of frustration, being broke while trying to keep it together so I don’t have to sell my own kidney or even start looking for a sugar daddy.

And nah, I’m not trying to create a motivational post. I’m trying to write something raw as a flashback to my past.

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7 Breakup Songs That You’d Probably Need to Listen Right Now

Posted on by Marya The BeauTraveler

I’ve got a confession to make today: I’m back to the single world again. I recently broke up, it was around last week when we decided to part our ways for our own good. No drama whatsoever, I guess at this point it was our decision as two adults who just happened to be together for a few months. At some point, we realized that maybe it wasn’t a good idea that way. So we liberated each other through a breakup.

Pretty much like many other breakups, it wasn’t pretty either. There was some disappointment along the way, the thought of so many what ifs. But I think one of the good things about dating in our 30s is that we know when we need to take separate ways, it’s only for the betterment of one and the other.

I didn’t even cry when we eventually decided to end our relationship. As I said, this is probably the best for us. But hey, still it doesn’t stop me from listening to some breakup songs to pour my emotion.

Because of this, I decided to make a playlist of some breakup songs that might be useful for you. Especially for those of you who probably need to listen to some of them. Not to make the condition even worse, just to ensure yourself that everything is going to be alright.

It is, even though it sucks right now.

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Less than 100 Reasons Why You Should Think Twice Before Begpacking in Asia

Posted on by Marya The BeauTraveler

There was this article that has been shared for way too many times on the travelers’ group lately, and it is the one about Bali reporting begpackers to their embassies.

Look, I know I’m some kind of a failed Indonesian as I’ve never been to Bali before. However, I’ve seen this begpacker phenomenon a few times in Bangkok and Hong Kong. I don’t know though, there’s probably somewhere else that I’ve been where there were also begpackers. But at the time, I wasn’t familiar with what begpacker is.

However, I remember I was curious about why so many white street musicians around Tsim Sha Tsui when I was about to see Tsim Sha Tsui Promenade. It was only a few minutes when I saw some hippies spreading a floor mat and taking out some stuff from their traveling printout pics to even their friendship bracelet whatever.

I was amused and annoyed at the same time. And let me speak for myself, as a traveler holding a weak passport like the Indonesian one. Frankly speaking, if I were to do the same thing as they did in their country, I would be deported in no time.

But life isn’t always fair, so the only thing I could do about it is to spread the awareness on why you should think twice before deciding to begpack around Asia. This especially applies in the less developed countries like those in Southeast Asia region.

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5 Life Lessons that I’ve Learned from Having a Toxic Uncle Who’s Basically an Asshole

Posted on by Marya The BeauTraveler

Since the title might sound controversial for some of you, let me put a disclaimer here: this one is a really personal post. And despite the fact that I’m trying my best to bottle up my emotion, I decided to just write a post about it as some kind of therapy. So, here we go!

First of all, I rarely talk about my family. I mean, I know a lot of people who would share their some kind of picture-perfect family portrait during holiday seasons. Be it during Christmas or Idul Fitri around here, some people even customized some matching outfits with the rest of the family to get a perfect family picture during the time.

Well, in case you haven’t noticed that… I’m not that kind of person. Holiday seasons for me are just another day, the only difference is that many people come and go to my house for a visit.

Plus, I’ve got a super big family that I just can’t keep up anymore. And I don’t even bother pretending that I’m impressed by the connection we’ve shared through our ancestors. The only reason why I’ve been trying to behave myself is because of my parents.

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The Art of Working From Home: Pros and Cons Before You Consider Leaving Your Office Job (and Everything Else)

Posted on by Marya The BeauTraveler

I’ve been quite busy lately to the point that I didn’t even have time to update anything throughout this weekend. Last weekend, I went out again with Nesia and Jean, my go-to partners when it comes to exploring places around Bandung. After we hit off the road to Stone Garden last year, we decided to go to Ciwidey last week.

Anyway, one issue that came up when we went out is this: my working from home situation.

Don’t get me wrong, I love my current job more than my previous one(s). But then again, not everything in life sparks joy because life isn’t that fair like that. There are times when you have a hard time, sometimes it has something to do with what you do, with whom you have to do it, or even how you do it.

As it is holiday’s seasons for some of my cousins who are still at school, they come to Bandung to spend their holiday here. Long story short, as someone who’s not exactly a big fan of kids, I couldn’t really stand with all the crying or the yelling. Especially not when I have to catch with the deadlines.

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